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Thanks for turning my Wednesday night into a Friday Night
It took me a while to change my relationship status
I don’t mind being alone. I think when I’m by myself I’m pretty good company.
In fact, one of the best trips I’ve taken was a solo trip to Barcelona. I had found a deal and was ready to pull the trigger but everyone was wishy-washy about going, so I said “f-it, I’m going!”
I saw what I wanted to see, ate when I wanted to eat, (and what I wanted to eat), got up when I wanted with no one saying:
”you came all this way out here and now you’re sleeping in?”
I felt like George Costanza (Seinfeld reference) sitting in his apartment in his underwear biting into a hunk of cheese!
I have been married twice and in several long-term relationships, but lived as a single guy for over 10 years. I’ve had my daughters living with me on and off throughout the years. But I relish the level of autonomy I have in my life. I resented being a “fixer upper” in some relationships. I don’t really want to change. I’m perfectly happy with myself the way I am.
I’ve been on the dating apps, been fixed up by friends, all that to lukewarm results.
In fact, at one time a friend of mine and I would compare how many times we had swiped left on the apps and we sat around talking about dating horror stories.
So one Friday night I half-heartedly answered a chat and agreed to meet someone on a date. She told me she was going out with friends and I could just meet her out.
Perfect! This meant that if it was not a good date, I could ditch with not much effort.
We hit it off immediately. There was chemistry-lots of it. (or was it the drinks?)
I didn’t want to seem too eager for our next date, but we enjoyed each other’s company. Pretty soon we were planning a trip together. This was a test to see if we could travel well together.
She passed and apparently so did I.
I’m now in a situation that I don’t feel judged for what I say, what I think, my off-color jokes, my nerdiness, my wanderlust…
It seems strange to me.
So now I’m in a place where I’m accepted for all my eccentricities and weirdnesses and I don’t have to censor or “tone it down”.
My daughters and friends have said that she’s “not my type”-maybe that’s exactly the point.
She’s also on team Danny. I feel she can sense my needs and helps without being asked. (not that I ever ask for help)
She has been able to connect with my daughters, one of them struggles with mental health issues. It has made such a difference for her. She now has someone she can confide in.
Best of all, I’m having a great time! She manages to turn a mundane Wednesday night into an exciting Friday night. We could be out doing something exciting or just sitting around doing nothing at all.
My life was great before, but now it’s…better.
I guess that’s the moral of the story. We were both in good places in our lives and we were kind of hesitant to be in a relationship.
Don’t expect someone to fill a void in your life and MAKE you happy…
Be happy and maybe you’ll find someone who makes your life better.
Hey Babe…I love you!
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